George Wrote His Rules Of Civility
Early On
February is the month for celebrating our country’s Presidents. And
without doubt, the most noteworthy of these was number one, George
Washington.
When
we aren’t remembering him as our first President, we remember him as
the Commander in Chief of the Revolutionary War. He truly was a
remarkable man.
At
the age of just 14, Washington wrote 110 rules of civility and
decent behavior. Reading them, one is aware that most of them are
just as applicable today as they were when written in the middle of
the 1700s. A few examples follow.
Rule
1: Every action done in company ought to be done with some sign of
respect to those that are present.
Rule
4: In the presence of others, sing not to yourself with a humming
noise, nor drum with your fingers or feet.
Rule
5: If you cough, sneeze, sigh, or yawn, do it not loud but
privately; and speak not in your yawning, but put your handkerchief
or hand before your face and turn aside.
Rule
7: Put not off your clothes in the presence of others, nor go out of
your chamber half dressed.
Rule
9: Spit not into the fire, nor stoop low before it, neither put your
hands into the flames to warm them, nor set your feet upon the fire,
especially if there be meat before it.
Rule
12: Shake not your head, feet, or legs, roll not the eyes, lift not
one eyebrow higher than the other, wry not the mouth, and bedew no
man’s face with your spittle by approaching too near him when you
speak.
Rule
15: Keep your nails clean and short, also your hands and teeth
clean, yet without showing any great concern for them.
Rule
35: Let your discourse with men of business be short and
comprehensive.
Rule
38: In visiting the sick, do not presently play the physician if you
be not knowing therein.
Rule
50: Be not hasty to believe flying reports to the disparagement of
any.
Rule
71: Gaze not on the marks or blemishes of others and ask not how
they came. What you may speak in secret to your friend deliver not
before others.
Rule
73: Think before you speak, pronounce not imperfectly, or bring out
your words too hastily, but orderly and distinctly.
Rule
82: Undertake not what you cannot perform but be careful to keep
your promise.
Rule
101: Rinse not your mouth in the presence of others.
Rule
110: Labor to keep alive in your breast that little spark of
celestial fire called conscience.
Some
of the rules are lengthy, and several of them refer to behavior
proper at a time when social class distinctions were important. I’ll
include just one example:
Rule
57: In walking up and down in a house, with only one in company, if
he be greater than yourself, at the first give him the right hand
and stop not till he does and be not the first that turns, and when
you do let it be with your face toward him. If he be a man of great
quality, walk not with him cheek by jowl but somewhat behind, but
yet in such a manner that he may easily speak to you.
Altogether, these rules of civility are remarkable when one realizes
they were written by a 14 year old!
They are reprinted by several publishers. I especially enjoy By
George!, Mr. Washing ton’s Guide to Civility Today, by Steven
M. Selzer. Selzer includes a paragraph or two with each rule that
shows application to modern life.
Donna Miller
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